Love - The Most Wonderous Phenomenon Of All...

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Falling in love, or being in love for that matter, just seems to generate so much fresh meaning in one's life.

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Being alone, uninvolved, isolated, unloved, misunderstood, alienated, dumped and all that misery is no fun.

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It is hard to find any meaning in that, and humans cannot live well without experiencing some coherent meaning in and for their situation.

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The recognition of meaning makes us believe that we are in charge, while any absence of meaning perplexes and confounds us - to say the least.

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Now, a great many folks prefer the stable meaning derived from a life of faith over the meaning derived from a passionate but volatile love relationship - that is, from 'unsafe' love.

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However, the lure of romance, of the desire to find relief from the pains of loneliness and come to a more proximate meaning of life, is unsurpressable.

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Romance gives us a delightfully gratifying high, it puts us in a blissful state of mind like nothing else can - at least for a while.

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Even the mates of arranged or 'prompted' marriages might go through the stage of initial romance, just perhaps not as stirring as when love smites out of the blue.

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Romance starts off by idealizing the one, by only seeing the 'good' in him or her to make sense out of the given, to arrive at a tolerable meaning.

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It's just that we cannot maintain being fascinated by these idealizations of self, the other, or both for long.

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The real selves - the good, bad and ugly, will eventually emerge and mates will then need to renegotiate their bond with each other - if mutual affection survived.

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That 'reality check' is a vulnerable time for the couple. Some have the capacity to be tolerant and then renegotiate, some need to learn fast to make it, and some won't.

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Romance and its burgeoning love are transitory and subjective apparitions. But it isn't love that is unsafe, it is rather that people are unsafe and should not be trusted unconditionally.

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We do not really know who and what we are going to become in life. What will we come to desire, after having had a taste of this or that?

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Be mindful of folks who, with the best of intentions, do not know themselves well enough or will not fairly explain themselves to you. But then give love a chance...

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