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Are You Not One Of Them?

Moods are significant, says a famous philosopher.

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Our everyday existence is permeated by a multitude of affective experiences: of ourselves; of others; and of the world around us. "We find ourselves 'thrown' into this world," says Martin Heidegger famously.

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Correspondingly, a flood of emotions, moods, and feelings are present to us both proximally and forcefully. Significantly, we are always found in a mood.

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Moods establish themselves for us in our childhoods. There, a mood befalls us as a fundamental way in which we come to be attuned to the world.

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Anxiety, fear, boredom, and excitement are some moods. Fateful as moods seem to be, they are not necessarily so.

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In our relative freedoms, we are also able to 'throw' out even the 'moodiest' conditioning. That is, we have options in actively and authentically aiming at realizing our perceived potentials.

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Two minor moods are noteworthy: that of 'grounding' and that of 'travel.' Some tend more to seek protection and commitment, (grounding), others tend more to seek space and freedom (travel).

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'Grounding' and 'traveling' may not come across easily as moods, but what about as general attitudes, dispositions, inclinations, or attunements?

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Now, nobody is just this one way and not that other way. We all are a mixed bag, a bag of trouble as some might reckon.

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Is your tendency one of seeking grounding (safety, predictability, etc.) or rather travel (freedom, risk, etc.)?

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And are not all singles and their supporters interested in finding or helping to find a good match? In the evaluation of a potential match, do you then seek the 'same' or the 'opposite'?

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What, then, are we trying to match on?   One's good or poor looks, one's excellent or sleazy character, one's ambitious or bland interests? One's attunement to being alive?

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Will more of the 'same' fascinate you, or rather the novel experience of the 'opposite'? Two 'grounded' people may find a lot of comfort in each other, and little else.

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Two 'travelers' may seldom face each other, unless they travel the same 'road less traveled.' Will the 'same' fascinate you for some 40+ years, or will the 'opposite' perhaps do a better job at keeping you alive?

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We cannot be sure of what works best for us, or anyone else. Nobody can. The overused notion of compatibility is unhelpful as it is way too subjective.

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Consider and eliminate, perhaps, what definitely will not work for you. 40+ years of marriage is a very long time.